Dear moms and dads of India

Dear moms and dads of different castes around India,

I have a real genuine concern and I speak for, well, most of the children around the world. We love you and we are always thankful to you for being there for us. At every point of our lives. Its because of you that our lives have always been so simple. But then, there is one aspect of our lives, which you make a little difficult. That is when your children fall in love with someone other than their caste. Somehow, you guys donot agree to a match of your son/daughter in a different caste irrespective of how good the girl/boy is. Dear Parents, we understand that you are concerned for us and you truly believe that your sons/daughters are the best but they have made the wrong decision. Here, I would ask you to put a little faith on us. You will have to understand that we encounter a lot of jerks in our daily lives and we can differentiate between a jerk from a non jerk. Just because that person is from a different caste does not make him a bad match for us.

You prefer us to marry in our own caste mainly because of 2 reasons (or so I understand) First, It would be easy to adjust because the customs are known ( This mainly goes for the girls) and second because it would help you keep your head up in the soceity/samaj. Now if you actually think about it, adjusting in a new family is anyway difficult for a girl. It would be really good if you would believe in us and help us settle in the new culture. Yes we will need you. At every step of our lives. Please don't disown your children just because they want to marry in a family which does not follow same tradition as yours. At the end of the day every culture's family is the same .. bounded by love and harmony.
When you talk about "an uncha sar" in the "samaj",I would like to ask you why would you really care about "gossip Mongers?" Don't they have a life to live after all the hullabaloo has quietened? After everything is said and done, it is just the family that stands as a single unit. The "Samaj" would always want something to talk about and they will! Please don't ask us to leave a perfectly wonderful guy/girl because pados ke babloo ki bua would gossip!
Please understand that same caste is not a guarantee for 2 people to be happy. A loving and caring partner definitely is! A good understanding, friendship and compatibility is more important between two people to be happy and not the same cultural backgrounds. If your children happen to find a partner for themselves, be glad and please don't threaten to kill yourselves or us for that matter!! If you do not like their choice please sit across the table and give them logical reason as to why! If the guy does not earn well or drinks uncontrollably or is a natural flirt , you can explain this to your child. If the girl seems wrong in her character, explain it to your child. But a wonderful, talented , self-dependant girl or a decent, good earning nice guy is rejected just because one is a surname A and other is a surname Z , is very unfortunate.

I wish some parent reads this. I wish someone AT LEAST thinks about changing their thinking. I wish no couple breaks up , not because they don't want to be together, but because no one else wants them to be together.

May there be lots of love in this world!!!!