1. Before getting angry, ask yourself if it will really matter in 20 years
2. Focus on being a good person, not on pleasing others
3. Don’t engage in office politics
4. Refuse to gossip, or talk behind other people’s backs
5. Don’t envy others
6. Don’t look for reasons to be angry or sad, look for reasons to be happy. You’ll always be able to find plenty of each.
7. Return emails and phone messages promptly
8. Never let a lack of money ruin your zest for life
9. Take yourself less seriously
10. Be a hopeless romantic
11. Be a hopeless optimist
12. Be eternally grateful
13. Allow others to see who you really are, but be careful not to overshare intimate details
14. Smile when speaking on the phone, it will translate
15. Let others have the limelight
16. Sing in the shower
17. Giggle
18. Have inside jokes with your closest friends
19. Be the person that you would want to be best friends with
20. When you are in love, be utterly and completely in love
21. Let the unimportant things go
22. Give more than you get
23. Take the bus, or the train so that you’ll have more time to read
24. Read poetry
25. Love your life
26. Do not retailiate
27. Be sincere, genuine and kind
Monday, July 25, 2011
Saturday, July 23, 2011
Sometimes ...
Sometimes being alone does not mean you are lonely. It just means you are spending time with yourself.
Sometimes, actually more often than not,people tend to go after relationships that they are denied of.
Sometimes, it is okay to think about yourself and say no because you actually dont want to do go to that party your friends are forcing you into ..... but sometimes, it is also okay to think about others and make them a little happy.
Sometimes, it is okay to fall and make mistakes and learn ... but sometimes it is also important to punish yourself for doing something wrong you know you shouldn't have done.
Sometimes, it is okay to feel weak and cry,shed the tears, shed the baggage and move on ...
Sometimes it is necessary to be strong, hold back tears and smile as if nothing has happened.
Sometimes, a little criticism can be taken magnanimously, learning out of it. It will do nothing but good to you.
Sometimes, however you want, you cannot make a third person understand what is right or wrong for him/her. He will know it only when he himself will realise it. Until then you can just give suggestions.
and sometimes the best thing to do is let life be! Dont analys it, dont try to understand it .... leave things as they are. More often than not, solutions find us rather than we finding the solution. :)
Sometimes, actually more often than not,people tend to go after relationships that they are denied of.
Sometimes, it is okay to think about yourself and say no because you actually dont want to do go to that party your friends are forcing you into ..... but sometimes, it is also okay to think about others and make them a little happy.
Sometimes, it is okay to fall and make mistakes and learn ... but sometimes it is also important to punish yourself for doing something wrong you know you shouldn't have done.
Sometimes, it is okay to feel weak and cry,shed the tears, shed the baggage and move on ...
Sometimes it is necessary to be strong, hold back tears and smile as if nothing has happened.
Sometimes, a little criticism can be taken magnanimously, learning out of it. It will do nothing but good to you.
Sometimes, however you want, you cannot make a third person understand what is right or wrong for him/her. He will know it only when he himself will realise it. Until then you can just give suggestions.
and sometimes the best thing to do is let life be! Dont analys it, dont try to understand it .... leave things as they are. More often than not, solutions find us rather than we finding the solution. :)
Friday, July 22, 2011
The bucket list
These are a few things/wishes I always wanted but it never happened :
1) In school, we used to have badges for the first and second rank holders. They were "first in class" and "Top Girl" respectively. It was kind of a bloody show off (for those who could not have it) and an honour for those who had. I always wanted to have atleast one of the badges. Never happened .... (In other words, I never came first or second in my class)
2) I wanted a room all by myself when I was a kid. That never happened. By the time I got a room I was fully grown up and had lost the craze to stay all alone in a room. (In other words, i understood it so boring latkofied all alone in your room)
3) I always wanted those video games which had those joysticks and would be attached to tv. (In other words, my parents said -"ye total waste of time hai .. padhai karo!! )
4) I always wanted a big time protective elder brother. Although my sister was never lesser :) (In other words, she was a big time bully)
5) I wanted to write like Enid Blyton :) (In other words, I used to copy her stories and write them and say they are "my own")
6)I wanted to be a journalist. I had even asked dad to give me permission to do a course in mass comm. I am sure you guessed what his answer was :D (In other words, NO!!)
And these are the things I want now :
1) go on a world tour (Quite possible!! )
2) retire in a hill station or country side in Ireland ( Anywhere where it is beautiful and peaceful)
3) have coffee with John Abraham :) :) (Come on!! I can get atleast a coffee for being a die hard loyal fan. Although I am very happy with a coffee MUG by that time -- a birthday gift with John and my picture on it by my sweethearts!! )
4) write beautifully (Practice !! )
5) get rid of a few physical shortcomings ( very obvious)
6) make frnds with a few people of different nationalities (In short, koi angrez)
7) Read all possible wonderful books in the world (which is like ..impossible!!)
1) In school, we used to have badges for the first and second rank holders. They were "first in class" and "Top Girl" respectively. It was kind of a bloody show off (for those who could not have it) and an honour for those who had. I always wanted to have atleast one of the badges. Never happened .... (In other words, I never came first or second in my class)
2) I wanted a room all by myself when I was a kid. That never happened. By the time I got a room I was fully grown up and had lost the craze to stay all alone in a room. (In other words, i understood it so boring latkofied all alone in your room)
3) I always wanted those video games which had those joysticks and would be attached to tv. (In other words, my parents said -"ye total waste of time hai .. padhai karo!! )
4) I always wanted a big time protective elder brother. Although my sister was never lesser :) (In other words, she was a big time bully)
5) I wanted to write like Enid Blyton :) (In other words, I used to copy her stories and write them and say they are "my own")
6)I wanted to be a journalist. I had even asked dad to give me permission to do a course in mass comm. I am sure you guessed what his answer was :D (In other words, NO!!)
And these are the things I want now :
1) go on a world tour (Quite possible!! )
2) retire in a hill station or country side in Ireland ( Anywhere where it is beautiful and peaceful)
3) have coffee with John Abraham :) :) (Come on!! I can get atleast a coffee for being a die hard loyal fan. Although I am very happy with a coffee MUG by that time -- a birthday gift with John and my picture on it by my sweethearts!! )
4) write beautifully (Practice !! )
5) get rid of a few physical shortcomings ( very obvious)
6) make frnds with a few people of different nationalities (In short, koi angrez)
7) Read all possible wonderful books in the world (which is like ..impossible!!)
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Zindagi na milegi dobara
दिलों मैं तुम अपनी बेताबियाँ लेके चल रहे हो तो जिंदा हो तुम
नजर मैं ख्वाबों की बिजलियाँ लेले चल रहे हो तोह जिंदा हो तुम
हवा के झोंकों के जैसे आज़ाद रहना सीखो
तुम एक दरिया के जैसे, लहरों मैं बहना सीखो
हर एक लम्हे से तुम मिलो खोले अपनी बाहें
हर एक पल एक नया समां दिखाएं
जो अपने आखों में हैरानियाँ लेके चल रहे हो तो जिंदा हो तुम,
दिलों में तुम अपनी बेताबियाँ लेके चल रहे हो तो जिंदा हो तुम!!
नजर मैं ख्वाबों की बिजलियाँ लेले चल रहे हो तोह जिंदा हो तुम
हवा के झोंकों के जैसे आज़ाद रहना सीखो
तुम एक दरिया के जैसे, लहरों मैं बहना सीखो
हर एक लम्हे से तुम मिलो खोले अपनी बाहें
हर एक पल एक नया समां दिखाएं
जो अपने आखों में हैरानियाँ लेके चल रहे हो तो जिंदा हो तुम,
दिलों में तुम अपनी बेताबियाँ लेके चल रहे हो तो जिंदा हो तुम!!
Sunday, July 3, 2011
The seven secrets of happiness!
A book with the same name was my last read. It was kind of amatureish and too fairy tale-ly. But the author takes her readers through 7 points which she calls "The seven secret of Happiness." I'll review the book later. First let me share those seven pointers. I may not have really liked the story in the book, but I did love the "secrets". Every time I read each one of the secrets I went "How true!" So here are the secrets and my thoughts on those.
1) Emotional Independence -- The author suggests that one should be emotionally independent. I somehow very truly believe this. Depending on anyone for your happiness is almost crippling. I know it is extremely easier said than done. We tend to easily look towards a person very close to our hearts for an emotional support. The day people will start looking within themselves for a smile, no one would be sad because they were ditched in a relationship or because someone very dear did not do as expected.
2) Healthy mind and body -- Needless to say, you would not enjoy a good joke with a high fever or a running nose. Exercise !!! Walk! Abandon the elevator ( I can say this without any guilt at least now because I have been a good girl and exercising lately!! :) :) )
3) Let go off jealousy -- Difficult ofcourse! The jealous pangs just come up without you even noticing it. But seriously, once we let go off that feeling and genuinely be happy for a person, it is kind of liberating. Trust me when I say this because I get the familiar J feeling whenever I see people posting FB pics of their Chciago trip, Paris trip, China trip, Ye trip, Woh trip .... But then I remind myself that being jealous is extremely negative and since I am a big time follower of positive energies, I manage to keep myself at bay! I know I will go too ... I will go travel the most exotic locations in the entire world and will post every detail on FB!!! HA! Take that people!!! :D :D :D
4)Do good deeds: Hands down yes on that !! and you know what? You really don't have to find a charitable organisation for that. Make a person smile, help a colleague, counsel a friend or at most donate blood. Somehow it feels good. Really good!
5) Hold on to your friends: Oh! So true! How many of you had a bad day and you had a mood upliftment after sharing a hearty laugh with your friends??? I am sure almost everyone! Friends are those lovely lovely gifts ... as books put it "Your chosen family" Never let go of these gems! They have come in your life as a blessing. Thank God from the deepest corners of your hearts for them. I know I do! :)
6) Seek happiness in the small moments of your life: Life is all about those small moments. Had tea standing below a chappar while it was raining? or had an extremely sound sleep? Just look around and you will find many many such small moments. Sometimes you do need to make that extra effort to make youself happy! Come on! Do it. At the end that smile is totally worth it!
7) Let go off the past: Whatever happened cannot be changed, Learn and move ahead. Past - be it good or bad holds nothing with it anymore. Relieve yourself from the baggage or keep the beautiful time spent as a wonderful memory. Whatever it may be, Let it go and smile! Remember that at the end "Life is what you make it" :)
So there you go ... No preaching here! Just what I read and feel and truly believe.. Stay happy people! Live! Laugh! Love! Let there be lots of love in this world!!! :)
1) Emotional Independence -- The author suggests that one should be emotionally independent. I somehow very truly believe this. Depending on anyone for your happiness is almost crippling. I know it is extremely easier said than done. We tend to easily look towards a person very close to our hearts for an emotional support. The day people will start looking within themselves for a smile, no one would be sad because they were ditched in a relationship or because someone very dear did not do as expected.
2) Healthy mind and body -- Needless to say, you would not enjoy a good joke with a high fever or a running nose. Exercise !!! Walk! Abandon the elevator ( I can say this without any guilt at least now because I have been a good girl and exercising lately!! :) :) )
3) Let go off jealousy -- Difficult ofcourse! The jealous pangs just come up without you even noticing it. But seriously, once we let go off that feeling and genuinely be happy for a person, it is kind of liberating. Trust me when I say this because I get the familiar J feeling whenever I see people posting FB pics of their Chciago trip, Paris trip, China trip, Ye trip, Woh trip .... But then I remind myself that being jealous is extremely negative and since I am a big time follower of positive energies, I manage to keep myself at bay! I know I will go too ... I will go travel the most exotic locations in the entire world and will post every detail on FB!!! HA! Take that people!!! :D :D :D
4)Do good deeds: Hands down yes on that !! and you know what? You really don't have to find a charitable organisation for that. Make a person smile, help a colleague, counsel a friend or at most donate blood. Somehow it feels good. Really good!
5) Hold on to your friends: Oh! So true! How many of you had a bad day and you had a mood upliftment after sharing a hearty laugh with your friends??? I am sure almost everyone! Friends are those lovely lovely gifts ... as books put it "Your chosen family" Never let go of these gems! They have come in your life as a blessing. Thank God from the deepest corners of your hearts for them. I know I do! :)
6) Seek happiness in the small moments of your life: Life is all about those small moments. Had tea standing below a chappar while it was raining? or had an extremely sound sleep? Just look around and you will find many many such small moments. Sometimes you do need to make that extra effort to make youself happy! Come on! Do it. At the end that smile is totally worth it!
7) Let go off the past: Whatever happened cannot be changed, Learn and move ahead. Past - be it good or bad holds nothing with it anymore. Relieve yourself from the baggage or keep the beautiful time spent as a wonderful memory. Whatever it may be, Let it go and smile! Remember that at the end "Life is what you make it" :)
So there you go ... No preaching here! Just what I read and feel and truly believe.. Stay happy people! Live! Laugh! Love! Let there be lots of love in this world!!! :)
Saturday, July 2, 2011
Turning 26
Eons ago was the time when i had last posted something on my blog! Its been crazy. Target finally decided to keep me busy and how! Time flies once I reach office and the next thing i know is it is the end of the day. But I always keep reminding myself that I am loving it. I have always loved keeping myself superbusy. Probably its my devilish mind which I want to ignore or probably I just love the feeling which I call as "Pillow Hit" which means going to sleep as soon as I hit the pillow. Whatever it is I love engrossing myself in work. People do feel it is weird though!
Its my birthday very soon and I'll be turning 26. Crossed the 25 threshold. Somehow, now that I am putting it in words, I am feeling very matured and grown up. But I strongly believe that your mind has no age and a person is as old as his mind. Oh Well!! I have to keep consoling myself with some words now that I am just 4 years shy of joining the 30 club. I am doing atleast one thing right these days! I am exercising a lot and I am loving it. 26 years of my life and atleast I have learnt one lesson ... Learn from everyone you meet. Sometimes some people you meet are also examples of what a person should NOT be. But I am thankful to God that he has always send extremely wonderful people towards me. So be it anyone who has walked in my life, I have grown a lot with them. So maybe age is really just a number. You can decide to be mature and childlike or bore and childish. I have decided to choose the former and thats the "phase" I am staying in forever. Mature and childlike. The age may keep incrementing. It would really does not matter.
Turning 26 brings one more package. I am, for some orthodox thinkers, way past my marriage age. Although for some , I am at the perfect age to get married. Now here are my thoughts on marriage :
People want me to get married because they want me to "settle down".Ok!! Although I seriously dont see the reason why? Is everyone not tired and bored of the same routine after marriage? So why would I want to go in a boring routine deliberately?
People say get married because you have a secured future. Thank you very much but I am working my ass off all alone to get just that for myself. Why should I get married to a person for a selfish reason -- "MY secured future????" As I said earlier, its MY future and I will secure it myself.
People say get married because you will have a companion for a lifetime. Fair enough! Lets first see who a companion should be? Basic answer .. somebody with whom I can feel my best and enjoy his company. I may "settle down" for this reason, but then this "companion" should be just that. Somebody who can be my best friend and I can enjoy his company. ALL MY LIFE. But what if ,God forbids, my "companion" is a person who is all wrong? Is marriage worth risking all your dreams, your entire individuality and your future???
Please dont get me wrong. I am not against an allaince. But then as one of my friend puts it, a relationship should help you grow. If it is stagnating you or making you sad then its is not worth the trouble.
Also, people say get married because. "log kya kahenge". For that , i would like to quote 1 scentence I read somwhere and fell in love with instantly -- "What others think of me is none of my business!" :) :)
Yes I am 26. No I am not against marriage. I am only against giving it all up for a man who is not worth it. But if I do find "the one" I am all for marriage. Probably with all the excitement that there is! Till then its not a bad idea to explore the world and life, is it??
Its my birthday very soon and I'll be turning 26. Crossed the 25 threshold. Somehow, now that I am putting it in words, I am feeling very matured and grown up. But I strongly believe that your mind has no age and a person is as old as his mind. Oh Well!! I have to keep consoling myself with some words now that I am just 4 years shy of joining the 30 club. I am doing atleast one thing right these days! I am exercising a lot and I am loving it. 26 years of my life and atleast I have learnt one lesson ... Learn from everyone you meet. Sometimes some people you meet are also examples of what a person should NOT be. But I am thankful to God that he has always send extremely wonderful people towards me. So be it anyone who has walked in my life, I have grown a lot with them. So maybe age is really just a number. You can decide to be mature and childlike or bore and childish. I have decided to choose the former and thats the "phase" I am staying in forever. Mature and childlike. The age may keep incrementing. It would really does not matter.
Turning 26 brings one more package. I am, for some orthodox thinkers, way past my marriage age. Although for some , I am at the perfect age to get married. Now here are my thoughts on marriage :
People want me to get married because they want me to "settle down".Ok!! Although I seriously dont see the reason why? Is everyone not tired and bored of the same routine after marriage? So why would I want to go in a boring routine deliberately?
People say get married because you have a secured future. Thank you very much but I am working my ass off all alone to get just that for myself. Why should I get married to a person for a selfish reason -- "MY secured future????" As I said earlier, its MY future and I will secure it myself.
People say get married because you will have a companion for a lifetime. Fair enough! Lets first see who a companion should be? Basic answer .. somebody with whom I can feel my best and enjoy his company. I may "settle down" for this reason, but then this "companion" should be just that. Somebody who can be my best friend and I can enjoy his company. ALL MY LIFE. But what if ,God forbids, my "companion" is a person who is all wrong? Is marriage worth risking all your dreams, your entire individuality and your future???
Please dont get me wrong. I am not against an allaince. But then as one of my friend puts it, a relationship should help you grow. If it is stagnating you or making you sad then its is not worth the trouble.
Also, people say get married because. "log kya kahenge". For that , i would like to quote 1 scentence I read somwhere and fell in love with instantly -- "What others think of me is none of my business!" :) :)
Yes I am 26. No I am not against marriage. I am only against giving it all up for a man who is not worth it. But if I do find "the one" I am all for marriage. Probably with all the excitement that there is! Till then its not a bad idea to explore the world and life, is it??
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