These are not my words. All this time, while I have tried to write about Love in my blog, I never could sound so beautiful. This article expresses things so beautifully that I just had to put it down here. I don't know who wrote this but it is certainly the jist of all I had ever wanted to say.
When you think of your past love; you may view it as a failure; but when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it doesn't really matter who won or who lost. What's important is that you know when to hold on and when to let go. You know that you love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if their happiness means that you're not a part of it. Everything happens for a reason and for its best. If the person you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love someone else again, for you'll never know unless you give it a try.
You'll never truly love a person, unless you risk for their love; love strives in hurting. If you don't get hurt, then you won't learn how to love. Love doesn't hurt all the time; though the hurting is there to test you, to help you grow. Don't find love, let love find you; that's why it's called falling in love, because you don't need to force yourself to love, you just fall. You cannot finish a book without closing the chapters. If you want to move on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages.
Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. But why is it that the greatest irony of love is letting go when you want to hold on, and holding on when you need to let go? You can never find the right person if you can never let it go of the wrong, but at the same time the moment you feel like letting go, you remember why you held on for so long. Sometimes you have to forget what you want and remember what you deserve.
To love is to risk rejection, to live is to risk dying and to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing at all. To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose your true self. To love is to risk not being loved in return.
How to define love: Fall but do not stumble. Be constant but not too persistent. Share and never be unfair. Understand and try not to demand. Hurt but never keep the pain.
Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end. Loving people means giving them the freedom; whom they choose to be and where they choose to go. Loving someone means giving them the freedom to find their way, whether it leads towards you or away from you.
Love can be a painful risk. To love means that risk must be taken, no matter how scary or painful, for only then will you experience the fullness of humanity of what we call love. If you're not ready to cry, if you're not ready to take the risk and if you're not ready to feel the pain, then you're not ready to fall in love.
May there be lots of love in the world ....
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Sunday, May 8, 2011
Anand
This is my all time favourite movie. I have watched it many times and can still watch it. The story of a guy called Anand who lives life to the fullest knowing truly well that he is going to die in 6 months. He is diagnosed with a disease called "lymphocercoma of the intestine". I dont know if this disease really exists or not, but it did become quite a popular term in the Indian film industry. Everything about the movie is just so sensible and beautiful. Everybody falls in love with Anand. He is is this always smiling, full of positive energy ,wonderful person one cannot help but like. What makes the movie more wonderful is the other characters whose lives are touched by Anand. They are all from different religion and backgrounds but they all pray to their respective Gods for just one thing -- that Anand survives. I loved the timimg of the last scene where Dr.Bhaskar shouts at a dead Anand saying "6 mahine se bol bol ke mera sar kha gaye ho!" and the tape plays ... "Babu Moshai..Zindgai aur maut upar wale ke hatho main hai jahanpana ....". The best part is how there is a delay created with silence while they tape this dialogue with Anand getting ready. This delay is then used amazingly well in the last scene.
I absolutely and completely loved the dialogues of the movie. Here are a lists of 5 of them which I never forget :
1) Zindagi lambi nahi badi honi chahiye.
2) Jab tak zinda hoon tab tak mara nahi, jab mar gaya to sala main he nahi.
3) Shayad ye gum he hai jo usse sambhale hue hai.
4) Zindagi main koi pasand aaya, usse baat ki, uss ke sath has liya ...
and finally the closing line of the movie,
5) Anand mara nahi, Anand marte nahi.
Oh here are a few more :
1) Ek mara nahi aur doosra marne ke liye paida ho gaya.
2) Mujhe aashirwad dijiye ki main bohot boloon, kabhi chup na hoon. Acha boloon. galti se bhi kisi ke liye bura na nikle mere mooh se.
3) Aise aadmi ko chhod ke to Bhagwaan bhi nahi reh sakte.
Well, It is considered a classic for all the right reasons!
I absolutely and completely loved the dialogues of the movie. Here are a lists of 5 of them which I never forget :
1) Zindagi lambi nahi badi honi chahiye.
2) Jab tak zinda hoon tab tak mara nahi, jab mar gaya to sala main he nahi.
3) Shayad ye gum he hai jo usse sambhale hue hai.
4) Zindagi main koi pasand aaya, usse baat ki, uss ke sath has liya ...
and finally the closing line of the movie,
5) Anand mara nahi, Anand marte nahi.
Oh here are a few more :
1) Ek mara nahi aur doosra marne ke liye paida ho gaya.
2) Mujhe aashirwad dijiye ki main bohot boloon, kabhi chup na hoon. Acha boloon. galti se bhi kisi ke liye bura na nikle mere mooh se.
3) Aise aadmi ko chhod ke to Bhagwaan bhi nahi reh sakte.
Well, It is considered a classic for all the right reasons!
Wednesday, May 4, 2011
Why do I write
I write because I am lucky enough to convert my incoherent ramblings into coherent words.
Because sometimes sentences just pop in my head and keep echoing unless i put them down.
Because it helps me to think clearly.
Because it helps me to move on.
Because I always have so much to talk about and often there is no one to listen.
Because somethings are better written than said.
Because its good to keep a record of your thoughts since you can always go back to them and reflect if you have grown as a person or not (too philosophical?)
Because it helps me to keep elaborate memories.
Because maybe if i keep writing regularly, I'll actually start writing the way I want to. Filhaal, I am not even close.
And finally I write because I will burst with trapped thoughts if i don't :)
Because sometimes sentences just pop in my head and keep echoing unless i put them down.
Because it helps me to think clearly.
Because it helps me to move on.
Because I always have so much to talk about and often there is no one to listen.
Because somethings are better written than said.
Because its good to keep a record of your thoughts since you can always go back to them and reflect if you have grown as a person or not (too philosophical?)
Because it helps me to keep elaborate memories.
Because maybe if i keep writing regularly, I'll actually start writing the way I want to. Filhaal, I am not even close.
And finally I write because I will burst with trapped thoughts if i don't :)
Thursday, April 28, 2011
The Crush
I am time and again reminded of Hyderabad. Having changed 3 cities since the starting of my career, I have come to realize one thing. It is not a city which helps you create memories. It is always the people who help you do it. Every city at the end of the day has some cool hang out and even if it is not a cool hang out place as such, friends and laughter make it cool anyway. But then I have one super special memory of Hyderabad. I have mentioned it in my earlier blog also. Mr. Fresh. The BIGGEESSTTT crush I ever had. I never came to know his name and he was hands down the handsomest guy I had seen. I remember the way my stomach would do a flip every time I would see him.
And thats what I miss the most now. The teenage crush on somebody absolutely unachievable. Infact it is that "distance" which makes it all the more fun. I may not have wanted to make friends with Mr. Fresh but I would be so happy just seeing him .And ofcourse then there are your friends who share the same idiotic happiness as you. They'll help you spot him and do all that they can to attract attention, sometimes embarrassing things too, when you flinch outwardly, but inside you are smiling too!
Even in Noida, Isha had a crush on this guy. Atleast we were successful in finding out his name. Though the crush died its natural death but we still had those silly giggles and stupid fun. Ok he was Isha's crush, but i still remember how excited all the other four of us would become whenever we would spot him. That excitement, that turning back and stealing a glance and laughing all silly ... if nothing else they definitely give you great memories to look back and smile on.
I could not find anyone worth having a crush on in Bangalore. (although I do keep my eyes open ;) ) I know somebody can say that I have passed the age of being oh-so-girlish. Well, truly speaking I used to feel the same. But on second thoughts whats harm in acting little childish and feeling happy just looking at a person?
This by the way is more of a single thing, just one more of the advantages of being single!
And thats what I miss the most now. The teenage crush on somebody absolutely unachievable. Infact it is that "distance" which makes it all the more fun. I may not have wanted to make friends with Mr. Fresh but I would be so happy just seeing him .And ofcourse then there are your friends who share the same idiotic happiness as you. They'll help you spot him and do all that they can to attract attention, sometimes embarrassing things too, when you flinch outwardly, but inside you are smiling too!
Even in Noida, Isha had a crush on this guy. Atleast we were successful in finding out his name. Though the crush died its natural death but we still had those silly giggles and stupid fun. Ok he was Isha's crush, but i still remember how excited all the other four of us would become whenever we would spot him. That excitement, that turning back and stealing a glance and laughing all silly ... if nothing else they definitely give you great memories to look back and smile on.
I could not find anyone worth having a crush on in Bangalore. (although I do keep my eyes open ;) ) I know somebody can say that I have passed the age of being oh-so-girlish. Well, truly speaking I used to feel the same. But on second thoughts whats harm in acting little childish and feeling happy just looking at a person?
This by the way is more of a single thing, just one more of the advantages of being single!
Wednesday, April 27, 2011
Hollywood high!
India makes the largest number of films in a year. More than the movies made by the rest of the world put together. We have quantity! But we lack big time in quality. I love the indian film industry and thats why I prefer to call it that. The indian film industry. Not Bollywodd which is a rip off of Hollywood and ofcourse we have the telugu/Tamil film industry -- Tollywood and if i am not wrong there even is a kollywood. Well the word bollywood may have found a place in the oxford dictionary, but it still has to find a place in the world film industry. On the brighter side, (some)hindi movies made today are really good .Thanks to intelligent film makers/actors like Amir khan that we do have sensible movies to boast of here in India.
But there is one thing which I really really wish for. I wish we had variety like that in hollywood. People there make movies out of concepts from which indian film makers are far away from. Movies like Prestige, Shutter Island, Inception or constatine (which was the original inspiration of writing this blog) have ideas which can only make a viewer go wow. I dont deny that we donot have good filmmakers or good actors for that matter, but we do have a big time dearth of ideas.
Here, I would also have to take some onus on me as a movie goer. Somehow, audiences have never been able to accept "anything different" from the hindi movies. We still flock theatres for a Karan Johar/Yash Chopra movie. The entire hindi film industry is thriving on a single emotion. No prizes for guessing that --- Love! I wish story tellers dare to think a little out of the box and the film makers dare to make them.
India started by making brilliant films with amzing talents like Satyajit Ray, Raj Kapoor and Hrishikesh Mukherjee. I can still sit and watch Anari, Anand or chupke chupke. But we still stood our ground on love, love songs, realtionships, family, etc etc. Also there have been sheer rip offs of hollywood movies. Rip offs so bad, they make you flinch. For example there was a movie called "The Dragonfly" They made a hindi movie out of it called "saaya". They not only took the whole story, they also took the dialouges! How unimaginative can you be in a profession that requires you to be creative and imaginitive! Then there was Shukriya which was badly taken from Joe Black or even a hindi movie starring Randeep Hooda and Shahana Goswami which was an awful take away from the beautiful "If Only". Even when they buy the rights and make "We are family" out of Step Mom you still want to hide away and wish you had not wasted your 300 bucks on coming to watch a desperate attempt to be at par.
I still have my hopes high on the indiam Film Industry. Because for every stupid movie, they still give me a Rang De Basanti and a fashion. But we still have a long way to go to make an Inception or Invictus!
But there is one thing which I really really wish for. I wish we had variety like that in hollywood. People there make movies out of concepts from which indian film makers are far away from. Movies like Prestige, Shutter Island, Inception or constatine (which was the original inspiration of writing this blog) have ideas which can only make a viewer go wow. I dont deny that we donot have good filmmakers or good actors for that matter, but we do have a big time dearth of ideas.
Here, I would also have to take some onus on me as a movie goer. Somehow, audiences have never been able to accept "anything different" from the hindi movies. We still flock theatres for a Karan Johar/Yash Chopra movie. The entire hindi film industry is thriving on a single emotion. No prizes for guessing that --- Love! I wish story tellers dare to think a little out of the box and the film makers dare to make them.
India started by making brilliant films with amzing talents like Satyajit Ray, Raj Kapoor and Hrishikesh Mukherjee. I can still sit and watch Anari, Anand or chupke chupke. But we still stood our ground on love, love songs, realtionships, family, etc etc. Also there have been sheer rip offs of hollywood movies. Rip offs so bad, they make you flinch. For example there was a movie called "The Dragonfly" They made a hindi movie out of it called "saaya". They not only took the whole story, they also took the dialouges! How unimaginative can you be in a profession that requires you to be creative and imaginitive! Then there was Shukriya which was badly taken from Joe Black or even a hindi movie starring Randeep Hooda and Shahana Goswami which was an awful take away from the beautiful "If Only". Even when they buy the rights and make "We are family" out of Step Mom you still want to hide away and wish you had not wasted your 300 bucks on coming to watch a desperate attempt to be at par.
I still have my hopes high on the indiam Film Industry. Because for every stupid movie, they still give me a Rang De Basanti and a fashion. But we still have a long way to go to make an Inception or Invictus!
Monday, April 25, 2011
The 100th ...
This is my 100th post!!! So firstly congratulations to me!!! :) :)
And now to my thoughts ....
However confused I may be over the topic of marriage, I am certain about one thing. There is an excitement of starting a new life from the scratch. Lots of my friends have been married of-late and somehow, I always seem to share their excitement of searching a new house, settling down, buying the basics, new curtains, beds, bedsheets ... somehow its very refreshing. Tiring indeed ... but it fills you with a feeling of hope and happiness.
Its the fun of decorating a new house, calling it home, making your own comfort zone and sharing your life with somebody you really want to. But thats where the real complication starts. This setting up a new house can be fun only when two people come together because they wanted to and not because their parents and "society" wanted them to .
Actually more than the marriage thing, its more of decorating the house, shopping for new, stylish interiors which makes it so tempting. I remember wanting my own room in Bangalore just so that I could decorate it all according to my choice( had thought of giving it a blue theme) That unfortunately could not happen, but well, I'll still wait for the time when I get to convert a house into home, decorate it with beautiful paintings and props. That ...then would be my home :)
And now to my thoughts ....
However confused I may be over the topic of marriage, I am certain about one thing. There is an excitement of starting a new life from the scratch. Lots of my friends have been married of-late and somehow, I always seem to share their excitement of searching a new house, settling down, buying the basics, new curtains, beds, bedsheets ... somehow its very refreshing. Tiring indeed ... but it fills you with a feeling of hope and happiness.
Its the fun of decorating a new house, calling it home, making your own comfort zone and sharing your life with somebody you really want to. But thats where the real complication starts. This setting up a new house can be fun only when two people come together because they wanted to and not because their parents and "society" wanted them to .
Actually more than the marriage thing, its more of decorating the house, shopping for new, stylish interiors which makes it so tempting. I remember wanting my own room in Bangalore just so that I could decorate it all according to my choice( had thought of giving it a blue theme) That unfortunately could not happen, but well, I'll still wait for the time when I get to convert a house into home, decorate it with beautiful paintings and props. That ...then would be my home :)
Sunday, April 24, 2011
Why does this not happen to me?
1) I see a girl on TV use a shampoo and come out with beautiful shining, smooth, straight hair and I ask myself .. why does this not happen with me! Heck .. I have to use the costliest shampoo to keep my hair 1% of the lustrous hair they have!
2) Someone uses a face wash and becomes all glowing and beautiful and the world starts noticing her. I am not noticed even if I get a facial done!!!
3) A handsome guy walks past me and the wind blows and both of us look at each other and there is music in the background or everything slows down (like in DDLJ when Raj and Simran cross paths). Why does this not happen to me??
4) Using Lux/Vivel makes my skin glow big time and I am walking down in evening gowns with people staring agog! *sone se bhi sona lage!!!*
5) I use a deodorant and become a star at a presentation (Come on!!! Advertising ppl have to be a little more practical)
6) Oh yes! I am laughing all girly-silly in public and there is someone watching me and falling in love with me ... again with a background sound please *ek ladki ko dekha to aisa laga*
7) My friends plan to go for a euro trip and i am invited and i find all the time and money in the world to roam around and shop! (DDLJ again ... What did Simran and Raj do again??? Oh yes ...one was son of an uneducated billionaire dad and the other was a homely daughter doing nothing other than writing romantic musings! Ofcourse they had all the time and money in the world! )
8) I say something motivational in background (which is muted in background music ofcourse!!) and everone is clapping and nodding their head in affirmation saying ...she is the bestest!! ;)
9) and finally why dont have the answers to all the questions and solution to all problems!!!!
2) Someone uses a face wash and becomes all glowing and beautiful and the world starts noticing her. I am not noticed even if I get a facial done!!!
3) A handsome guy walks past me and the wind blows and both of us look at each other and there is music in the background or everything slows down (like in DDLJ when Raj and Simran cross paths). Why does this not happen to me??
4) Using Lux/Vivel makes my skin glow big time and I am walking down in evening gowns with people staring agog! *sone se bhi sona lage!!!*
5) I use a deodorant and become a star at a presentation (Come on!!! Advertising ppl have to be a little more practical)
6) Oh yes! I am laughing all girly-silly in public and there is someone watching me and falling in love with me ... again with a background sound please *ek ladki ko dekha to aisa laga*
7) My friends plan to go for a euro trip and i am invited and i find all the time and money in the world to roam around and shop! (DDLJ again ... What did Simran and Raj do again??? Oh yes ...one was son of an uneducated billionaire dad and the other was a homely daughter doing nothing other than writing romantic musings! Ofcourse they had all the time and money in the world! )
8) I say something motivational in background (which is muted in background music ofcourse!!) and everone is clapping and nodding their head in affirmation saying ...she is the bestest!! ;)
9) and finally why dont have the answers to all the questions and solution to all problems!!!!
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