Sometimes being alone does not mean you are lonely. It just means you are spending time with yourself.
Sometimes, actually more often than not,people tend to go after relationships that they are denied of.
Sometimes, it is okay to think about yourself and say no because you actually dont want to do go to that party your friends are forcing you into ..... but sometimes, it is also okay to think about others and make them a little happy.
Sometimes, it is okay to fall and make mistakes and learn ... but sometimes it is also important to punish yourself for doing something wrong you know you shouldn't have done.
Sometimes, it is okay to feel weak and cry,shed the tears, shed the baggage and move on ...
Sometimes it is necessary to be strong, hold back tears and smile as if nothing has happened.
Sometimes, a little criticism can be taken magnanimously, learning out of it. It will do nothing but good to you.
Sometimes, however you want, you cannot make a third person understand what is right or wrong for him/her. He will know it only when he himself will realise it. Until then you can just give suggestions.
and sometimes the best thing to do is let life be! Dont analys it, dont try to understand it .... leave things as they are. More often than not, solutions find us rather than we finding the solution. :)
Saturday, July 23, 2011
Friday, July 22, 2011
The bucket list
These are a few things/wishes I always wanted but it never happened :
1) In school, we used to have badges for the first and second rank holders. They were "first in class" and "Top Girl" respectively. It was kind of a bloody show off (for those who could not have it) and an honour for those who had. I always wanted to have atleast one of the badges. Never happened .... (In other words, I never came first or second in my class)
2) I wanted a room all by myself when I was a kid. That never happened. By the time I got a room I was fully grown up and had lost the craze to stay all alone in a room. (In other words, i understood it so boring latkofied all alone in your room)
3) I always wanted those video games which had those joysticks and would be attached to tv. (In other words, my parents said -"ye total waste of time hai .. padhai karo!! )
4) I always wanted a big time protective elder brother. Although my sister was never lesser :) (In other words, she was a big time bully)
5) I wanted to write like Enid Blyton :) (In other words, I used to copy her stories and write them and say they are "my own")
6)I wanted to be a journalist. I had even asked dad to give me permission to do a course in mass comm. I am sure you guessed what his answer was :D (In other words, NO!!)
And these are the things I want now :
1) go on a world tour (Quite possible!! )
2) retire in a hill station or country side in Ireland ( Anywhere where it is beautiful and peaceful)
3) have coffee with John Abraham :) :) (Come on!! I can get atleast a coffee for being a die hard loyal fan. Although I am very happy with a coffee MUG by that time -- a birthday gift with John and my picture on it by my sweethearts!! )
4) write beautifully (Practice !! )
5) get rid of a few physical shortcomings ( very obvious)
6) make frnds with a few people of different nationalities (In short, koi angrez)
7) Read all possible wonderful books in the world (which is like ..impossible!!)
1) In school, we used to have badges for the first and second rank holders. They were "first in class" and "Top Girl" respectively. It was kind of a bloody show off (for those who could not have it) and an honour for those who had. I always wanted to have atleast one of the badges. Never happened .... (In other words, I never came first or second in my class)
2) I wanted a room all by myself when I was a kid. That never happened. By the time I got a room I was fully grown up and had lost the craze to stay all alone in a room. (In other words, i understood it so boring latkofied all alone in your room)
3) I always wanted those video games which had those joysticks and would be attached to tv. (In other words, my parents said -"ye total waste of time hai .. padhai karo!! )
4) I always wanted a big time protective elder brother. Although my sister was never lesser :) (In other words, she was a big time bully)
5) I wanted to write like Enid Blyton :) (In other words, I used to copy her stories and write them and say they are "my own")
6)I wanted to be a journalist. I had even asked dad to give me permission to do a course in mass comm. I am sure you guessed what his answer was :D (In other words, NO!!)
And these are the things I want now :
1) go on a world tour (Quite possible!! )
2) retire in a hill station or country side in Ireland ( Anywhere where it is beautiful and peaceful)
3) have coffee with John Abraham :) :) (Come on!! I can get atleast a coffee for being a die hard loyal fan. Although I am very happy with a coffee MUG by that time -- a birthday gift with John and my picture on it by my sweethearts!! )
4) write beautifully (Practice !! )
5) get rid of a few physical shortcomings ( very obvious)
6) make frnds with a few people of different nationalities (In short, koi angrez)
7) Read all possible wonderful books in the world (which is like ..impossible!!)
Saturday, July 16, 2011
Zindagi na milegi dobara
दिलों मैं तुम अपनी बेताबियाँ लेके चल रहे हो तो जिंदा हो तुम
नजर मैं ख्वाबों की बिजलियाँ लेले चल रहे हो तोह जिंदा हो तुम
हवा के झोंकों के जैसे आज़ाद रहना सीखो
तुम एक दरिया के जैसे, लहरों मैं बहना सीखो
हर एक लम्हे से तुम मिलो खोले अपनी बाहें
हर एक पल एक नया समां दिखाएं
जो अपने आखों में हैरानियाँ लेके चल रहे हो तो जिंदा हो तुम,
दिलों में तुम अपनी बेताबियाँ लेके चल रहे हो तो जिंदा हो तुम!!
नजर मैं ख्वाबों की बिजलियाँ लेले चल रहे हो तोह जिंदा हो तुम
हवा के झोंकों के जैसे आज़ाद रहना सीखो
तुम एक दरिया के जैसे, लहरों मैं बहना सीखो
हर एक लम्हे से तुम मिलो खोले अपनी बाहें
हर एक पल एक नया समां दिखाएं
जो अपने आखों में हैरानियाँ लेके चल रहे हो तो जिंदा हो तुम,
दिलों में तुम अपनी बेताबियाँ लेके चल रहे हो तो जिंदा हो तुम!!
Sunday, July 3, 2011
The seven secrets of happiness!
A book with the same name was my last read. It was kind of amatureish and too fairy tale-ly. But the author takes her readers through 7 points which she calls "The seven secret of Happiness." I'll review the book later. First let me share those seven pointers. I may not have really liked the story in the book, but I did love the "secrets". Every time I read each one of the secrets I went "How true!" So here are the secrets and my thoughts on those.
1) Emotional Independence -- The author suggests that one should be emotionally independent. I somehow very truly believe this. Depending on anyone for your happiness is almost crippling. I know it is extremely easier said than done. We tend to easily look towards a person very close to our hearts for an emotional support. The day people will start looking within themselves for a smile, no one would be sad because they were ditched in a relationship or because someone very dear did not do as expected.
2) Healthy mind and body -- Needless to say, you would not enjoy a good joke with a high fever or a running nose. Exercise !!! Walk! Abandon the elevator ( I can say this without any guilt at least now because I have been a good girl and exercising lately!! :) :) )
3) Let go off jealousy -- Difficult ofcourse! The jealous pangs just come up without you even noticing it. But seriously, once we let go off that feeling and genuinely be happy for a person, it is kind of liberating. Trust me when I say this because I get the familiar J feeling whenever I see people posting FB pics of their Chciago trip, Paris trip, China trip, Ye trip, Woh trip .... But then I remind myself that being jealous is extremely negative and since I am a big time follower of positive energies, I manage to keep myself at bay! I know I will go too ... I will go travel the most exotic locations in the entire world and will post every detail on FB!!! HA! Take that people!!! :D :D :D
4)Do good deeds: Hands down yes on that !! and you know what? You really don't have to find a charitable organisation for that. Make a person smile, help a colleague, counsel a friend or at most donate blood. Somehow it feels good. Really good!
5) Hold on to your friends: Oh! So true! How many of you had a bad day and you had a mood upliftment after sharing a hearty laugh with your friends??? I am sure almost everyone! Friends are those lovely lovely gifts ... as books put it "Your chosen family" Never let go of these gems! They have come in your life as a blessing. Thank God from the deepest corners of your hearts for them. I know I do! :)
6) Seek happiness in the small moments of your life: Life is all about those small moments. Had tea standing below a chappar while it was raining? or had an extremely sound sleep? Just look around and you will find many many such small moments. Sometimes you do need to make that extra effort to make youself happy! Come on! Do it. At the end that smile is totally worth it!
7) Let go off the past: Whatever happened cannot be changed, Learn and move ahead. Past - be it good or bad holds nothing with it anymore. Relieve yourself from the baggage or keep the beautiful time spent as a wonderful memory. Whatever it may be, Let it go and smile! Remember that at the end "Life is what you make it" :)
So there you go ... No preaching here! Just what I read and feel and truly believe.. Stay happy people! Live! Laugh! Love! Let there be lots of love in this world!!! :)
1) Emotional Independence -- The author suggests that one should be emotionally independent. I somehow very truly believe this. Depending on anyone for your happiness is almost crippling. I know it is extremely easier said than done. We tend to easily look towards a person very close to our hearts for an emotional support. The day people will start looking within themselves for a smile, no one would be sad because they were ditched in a relationship or because someone very dear did not do as expected.
2) Healthy mind and body -- Needless to say, you would not enjoy a good joke with a high fever or a running nose. Exercise !!! Walk! Abandon the elevator ( I can say this without any guilt at least now because I have been a good girl and exercising lately!! :) :) )
3) Let go off jealousy -- Difficult ofcourse! The jealous pangs just come up without you even noticing it. But seriously, once we let go off that feeling and genuinely be happy for a person, it is kind of liberating. Trust me when I say this because I get the familiar J feeling whenever I see people posting FB pics of their Chciago trip, Paris trip, China trip, Ye trip, Woh trip .... But then I remind myself that being jealous is extremely negative and since I am a big time follower of positive energies, I manage to keep myself at bay! I know I will go too ... I will go travel the most exotic locations in the entire world and will post every detail on FB!!! HA! Take that people!!! :D :D :D
4)Do good deeds: Hands down yes on that !! and you know what? You really don't have to find a charitable organisation for that. Make a person smile, help a colleague, counsel a friend or at most donate blood. Somehow it feels good. Really good!
5) Hold on to your friends: Oh! So true! How many of you had a bad day and you had a mood upliftment after sharing a hearty laugh with your friends??? I am sure almost everyone! Friends are those lovely lovely gifts ... as books put it "Your chosen family" Never let go of these gems! They have come in your life as a blessing. Thank God from the deepest corners of your hearts for them. I know I do! :)
6) Seek happiness in the small moments of your life: Life is all about those small moments. Had tea standing below a chappar while it was raining? or had an extremely sound sleep? Just look around and you will find many many such small moments. Sometimes you do need to make that extra effort to make youself happy! Come on! Do it. At the end that smile is totally worth it!
7) Let go off the past: Whatever happened cannot be changed, Learn and move ahead. Past - be it good or bad holds nothing with it anymore. Relieve yourself from the baggage or keep the beautiful time spent as a wonderful memory. Whatever it may be, Let it go and smile! Remember that at the end "Life is what you make it" :)
So there you go ... No preaching here! Just what I read and feel and truly believe.. Stay happy people! Live! Laugh! Love! Let there be lots of love in this world!!! :)
Saturday, July 2, 2011
Turning 26
Eons ago was the time when i had last posted something on my blog! Its been crazy. Target finally decided to keep me busy and how! Time flies once I reach office and the next thing i know is it is the end of the day. But I always keep reminding myself that I am loving it. I have always loved keeping myself superbusy. Probably its my devilish mind which I want to ignore or probably I just love the feeling which I call as "Pillow Hit" which means going to sleep as soon as I hit the pillow. Whatever it is I love engrossing myself in work. People do feel it is weird though!
Its my birthday very soon and I'll be turning 26. Crossed the 25 threshold. Somehow, now that I am putting it in words, I am feeling very matured and grown up. But I strongly believe that your mind has no age and a person is as old as his mind. Oh Well!! I have to keep consoling myself with some words now that I am just 4 years shy of joining the 30 club. I am doing atleast one thing right these days! I am exercising a lot and I am loving it. 26 years of my life and atleast I have learnt one lesson ... Learn from everyone you meet. Sometimes some people you meet are also examples of what a person should NOT be. But I am thankful to God that he has always send extremely wonderful people towards me. So be it anyone who has walked in my life, I have grown a lot with them. So maybe age is really just a number. You can decide to be mature and childlike or bore and childish. I have decided to choose the former and thats the "phase" I am staying in forever. Mature and childlike. The age may keep incrementing. It would really does not matter.
Turning 26 brings one more package. I am, for some orthodox thinkers, way past my marriage age. Although for some , I am at the perfect age to get married. Now here are my thoughts on marriage :
People want me to get married because they want me to "settle down".Ok!! Although I seriously dont see the reason why? Is everyone not tired and bored of the same routine after marriage? So why would I want to go in a boring routine deliberately?
People say get married because you have a secured future. Thank you very much but I am working my ass off all alone to get just that for myself. Why should I get married to a person for a selfish reason -- "MY secured future????" As I said earlier, its MY future and I will secure it myself.
People say get married because you will have a companion for a lifetime. Fair enough! Lets first see who a companion should be? Basic answer .. somebody with whom I can feel my best and enjoy his company. I may "settle down" for this reason, but then this "companion" should be just that. Somebody who can be my best friend and I can enjoy his company. ALL MY LIFE. But what if ,God forbids, my "companion" is a person who is all wrong? Is marriage worth risking all your dreams, your entire individuality and your future???
Please dont get me wrong. I am not against an allaince. But then as one of my friend puts it, a relationship should help you grow. If it is stagnating you or making you sad then its is not worth the trouble.
Also, people say get married because. "log kya kahenge". For that , i would like to quote 1 scentence I read somwhere and fell in love with instantly -- "What others think of me is none of my business!" :) :)
Yes I am 26. No I am not against marriage. I am only against giving it all up for a man who is not worth it. But if I do find "the one" I am all for marriage. Probably with all the excitement that there is! Till then its not a bad idea to explore the world and life, is it??
Its my birthday very soon and I'll be turning 26. Crossed the 25 threshold. Somehow, now that I am putting it in words, I am feeling very matured and grown up. But I strongly believe that your mind has no age and a person is as old as his mind. Oh Well!! I have to keep consoling myself with some words now that I am just 4 years shy of joining the 30 club. I am doing atleast one thing right these days! I am exercising a lot and I am loving it. 26 years of my life and atleast I have learnt one lesson ... Learn from everyone you meet. Sometimes some people you meet are also examples of what a person should NOT be. But I am thankful to God that he has always send extremely wonderful people towards me. So be it anyone who has walked in my life, I have grown a lot with them. So maybe age is really just a number. You can decide to be mature and childlike or bore and childish. I have decided to choose the former and thats the "phase" I am staying in forever. Mature and childlike. The age may keep incrementing. It would really does not matter.
Turning 26 brings one more package. I am, for some orthodox thinkers, way past my marriage age. Although for some , I am at the perfect age to get married. Now here are my thoughts on marriage :
People want me to get married because they want me to "settle down".Ok!! Although I seriously dont see the reason why? Is everyone not tired and bored of the same routine after marriage? So why would I want to go in a boring routine deliberately?
People say get married because you have a secured future. Thank you very much but I am working my ass off all alone to get just that for myself. Why should I get married to a person for a selfish reason -- "MY secured future????" As I said earlier, its MY future and I will secure it myself.
People say get married because you will have a companion for a lifetime. Fair enough! Lets first see who a companion should be? Basic answer .. somebody with whom I can feel my best and enjoy his company. I may "settle down" for this reason, but then this "companion" should be just that. Somebody who can be my best friend and I can enjoy his company. ALL MY LIFE. But what if ,God forbids, my "companion" is a person who is all wrong? Is marriage worth risking all your dreams, your entire individuality and your future???
Please dont get me wrong. I am not against an allaince. But then as one of my friend puts it, a relationship should help you grow. If it is stagnating you or making you sad then its is not worth the trouble.
Also, people say get married because. "log kya kahenge". For that , i would like to quote 1 scentence I read somwhere and fell in love with instantly -- "What others think of me is none of my business!" :) :)
Yes I am 26. No I am not against marriage. I am only against giving it all up for a man who is not worth it. But if I do find "the one" I am all for marriage. Probably with all the excitement that there is! Till then its not a bad idea to explore the world and life, is it??
Sunday, May 22, 2011
Love again ...
These are not my words. All this time, while I have tried to write about Love in my blog, I never could sound so beautiful. This article expresses things so beautifully that I just had to put it down here. I don't know who wrote this but it is certainly the jist of all I had ever wanted to say.
When you think of your past love; you may view it as a failure; but when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it doesn't really matter who won or who lost. What's important is that you know when to hold on and when to let go. You know that you love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if their happiness means that you're not a part of it. Everything happens for a reason and for its best. If the person you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love someone else again, for you'll never know unless you give it a try.
You'll never truly love a person, unless you risk for their love; love strives in hurting. If you don't get hurt, then you won't learn how to love. Love doesn't hurt all the time; though the hurting is there to test you, to help you grow. Don't find love, let love find you; that's why it's called falling in love, because you don't need to force yourself to love, you just fall. You cannot finish a book without closing the chapters. If you want to move on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages.
Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. But why is it that the greatest irony of love is letting go when you want to hold on, and holding on when you need to let go? You can never find the right person if you can never let it go of the wrong, but at the same time the moment you feel like letting go, you remember why you held on for so long. Sometimes you have to forget what you want and remember what you deserve.
To love is to risk rejection, to live is to risk dying and to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing at all. To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose your true self. To love is to risk not being loved in return.
How to define love: Fall but do not stumble. Be constant but not too persistent. Share and never be unfair. Understand and try not to demand. Hurt but never keep the pain.
Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end. Loving people means giving them the freedom; whom they choose to be and where they choose to go. Loving someone means giving them the freedom to find their way, whether it leads towards you or away from you.
Love can be a painful risk. To love means that risk must be taken, no matter how scary or painful, for only then will you experience the fullness of humanity of what we call love. If you're not ready to cry, if you're not ready to take the risk and if you're not ready to feel the pain, then you're not ready to fall in love.
May there be lots of love in the world ....
When you think of your past love; you may view it as a failure; but when you find a new love, you view the past as a teacher. In the game of love, it doesn't really matter who won or who lost. What's important is that you know when to hold on and when to let go. You know that you love someone when you want him or her to be happy, even if their happiness means that you're not a part of it. Everything happens for a reason and for its best. If the person you love doesn't love you back, don't be afraid to love someone else again, for you'll never know unless you give it a try.
You'll never truly love a person, unless you risk for their love; love strives in hurting. If you don't get hurt, then you won't learn how to love. Love doesn't hurt all the time; though the hurting is there to test you, to help you grow. Don't find love, let love find you; that's why it's called falling in love, because you don't need to force yourself to love, you just fall. You cannot finish a book without closing the chapters. If you want to move on, then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages.
Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress. But why is it that the greatest irony of love is letting go when you want to hold on, and holding on when you need to let go? You can never find the right person if you can never let it go of the wrong, but at the same time the moment you feel like letting go, you remember why you held on for so long. Sometimes you have to forget what you want and remember what you deserve.
To love is to risk rejection, to live is to risk dying and to hope is to risk failure. But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing at all. To reach for another is to risk involvement, to expose your feelings is to expose your true self. To love is to risk not being loved in return.
How to define love: Fall but do not stumble. Be constant but not too persistent. Share and never be unfair. Understand and try not to demand. Hurt but never keep the pain.
Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling. It should inspire you and give you joy and strength. But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end. Loving people means giving them the freedom; whom they choose to be and where they choose to go. Loving someone means giving them the freedom to find their way, whether it leads towards you or away from you.
Love can be a painful risk. To love means that risk must be taken, no matter how scary or painful, for only then will you experience the fullness of humanity of what we call love. If you're not ready to cry, if you're not ready to take the risk and if you're not ready to feel the pain, then you're not ready to fall in love.
May there be lots of love in the world ....
Sunday, May 8, 2011
Anand
This is my all time favourite movie. I have watched it many times and can still watch it. The story of a guy called Anand who lives life to the fullest knowing truly well that he is going to die in 6 months. He is diagnosed with a disease called "lymphocercoma of the intestine". I dont know if this disease really exists or not, but it did become quite a popular term in the Indian film industry. Everything about the movie is just so sensible and beautiful. Everybody falls in love with Anand. He is is this always smiling, full of positive energy ,wonderful person one cannot help but like. What makes the movie more wonderful is the other characters whose lives are touched by Anand. They are all from different religion and backgrounds but they all pray to their respective Gods for just one thing -- that Anand survives. I loved the timimg of the last scene where Dr.Bhaskar shouts at a dead Anand saying "6 mahine se bol bol ke mera sar kha gaye ho!" and the tape plays ... "Babu Moshai..Zindgai aur maut upar wale ke hatho main hai jahanpana ....". The best part is how there is a delay created with silence while they tape this dialogue with Anand getting ready. This delay is then used amazingly well in the last scene.
I absolutely and completely loved the dialogues of the movie. Here are a lists of 5 of them which I never forget :
1) Zindagi lambi nahi badi honi chahiye.
2) Jab tak zinda hoon tab tak mara nahi, jab mar gaya to sala main he nahi.
3) Shayad ye gum he hai jo usse sambhale hue hai.
4) Zindagi main koi pasand aaya, usse baat ki, uss ke sath has liya ...
and finally the closing line of the movie,
5) Anand mara nahi, Anand marte nahi.
Oh here are a few more :
1) Ek mara nahi aur doosra marne ke liye paida ho gaya.
2) Mujhe aashirwad dijiye ki main bohot boloon, kabhi chup na hoon. Acha boloon. galti se bhi kisi ke liye bura na nikle mere mooh se.
3) Aise aadmi ko chhod ke to Bhagwaan bhi nahi reh sakte.
Well, It is considered a classic for all the right reasons!
I absolutely and completely loved the dialogues of the movie. Here are a lists of 5 of them which I never forget :
1) Zindagi lambi nahi badi honi chahiye.
2) Jab tak zinda hoon tab tak mara nahi, jab mar gaya to sala main he nahi.
3) Shayad ye gum he hai jo usse sambhale hue hai.
4) Zindagi main koi pasand aaya, usse baat ki, uss ke sath has liya ...
and finally the closing line of the movie,
5) Anand mara nahi, Anand marte nahi.
Oh here are a few more :
1) Ek mara nahi aur doosra marne ke liye paida ho gaya.
2) Mujhe aashirwad dijiye ki main bohot boloon, kabhi chup na hoon. Acha boloon. galti se bhi kisi ke liye bura na nikle mere mooh se.
3) Aise aadmi ko chhod ke to Bhagwaan bhi nahi reh sakte.
Well, It is considered a classic for all the right reasons!
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